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My First Blog Post

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Hi! Welcome to my first post on my brand new blog! I’m excited and nervous and clueless all at once!

I chose a lifestyle blog because I believe that I am multi-faceted and can’t choose just one topic to write about.

Should I start off by telling a bit about myself? I guess there’s no rules here, since this is my blog.

Girls just wanna have sun!!

So let’s see… I’m a 21-year-old from a small town in Alabama who recently moved to North Carolina.

Leo is my Zodiac sign and I couldn’t be more proud (obviously 😆). No, I’m not a natural redhead but it suits me best!

I enjoy the sunny outdoors more than anything in the world. I believe sunshine can help any bad day!

Among all the things I can be in this world, I strive to be a positive realist. This meaning I want to be as nice as possible, the Golden Rule is number one!!

Maintaining a good attitude is essential to me in order to have a happy life, and it’s a manual process.

The truth is, though, not everyone has the same mentality as those trying to grow. I constantly have to remind myself that I can’t expect the same from others as myself, or even the world for that matter.

I hope to fill this blog with my ideas and experiences that come across as hopeful and relevant, with a dash of funny. Y’all know the universe has to get its laughs from somewhere!

Most importantly, I want to have fun and learn something! And I wish the same to the followers I gain throughout this journey.

I’m just getting this new blog going, so watch out for what’s next! I don’t really have a plan either, so we’ll do this together. 😋

Change is Good: Making New Friends

What’s up again readers! If you’ve noticed, I haven’t posted a blog in some time… not my original plan but sometimes that’s how it goes.

My favorite thing to say… anytime… anything… happens.

As I have admitted to some people, I have been struggling with feeling inspired to write. I studied for 4 years to get my degree in journalism, and I love writing!

But I guess I have been feeling like this blog is homework or an obligation. It so isn’t!!!!

I have made it my personal goal in the next few months to be more active and throw myself into this blog. Not to please an audience but to create a purposeful hobby outside of work.

Just to give an update on my ever-changing life (and yes, that is not an exaggeration), I am going to be moving to a new city in NC next weekend to start a new job. EXCITING!

It’s more bittersweet than anything, if I’m being honest. I’m leaving behind a life that I just got started less than a year ago.

Since moving to Raleigh in December 2018, I struggled for a while to make friends and create a social life. But now, I have quality friends and the best boyfriend. It seems like I succeeded right before having to relocate.

This entry is to remind myself that change is good.

Lyric from Once in a While by Timeflies

To turn down a great opportunity to stay in my comfort zone would be detrimental to what could happen in my life.

Complacency is not the place to be, ever.

After I graduated college, my first thought was, ‘How in the world do adults make friends?!!??!”

It’s so easy on a campus: classes, gyms, food courts, events, etc. All filled with people around your age and looking to connect.

When you get out into the working world, you may not be surrounded with people your age (that was my case). How do you find people to engage with and build a friendship?

Now to the main point– I’m back to square one in social life in this new city. I’m sure there are some of you in a similar situation, so I’m going to share what worked for me in gaining friends in a new area.

In this online world, it’s best to join it rather than fight it.

Sure, it would be really cool to organically meet someone in public and start a relationship. If we’re being honest, millennials and generations born after that, don’t really work like that.

What brought me the most success in meeting people was the app, Bumble.

Yeah yeah I know, obviously. But it’s not just the fact that you download the app and make a profile, it’s how you use it.

It’s all fun to swipe and see who you match with, but less fun when you have to message someone, right?

What I quickly learned was that girls will message and talk to you forever, but none of them try to meet or hang out. That is where you get the best chance in creating a friendship.

I know my place among people: the outgoing and up-front initiator. Now I realize that not everyone is that way. But if you really want to make friends, challenge yourself to be the one to say, “Do you have any free time this week to meet?”

Be that person, because no one else will.

Once to this step, it’s usually easy to figure out a time and place to hang out for a bit. The next feat is the both of you actually following through with meeting.

DO IT!!!! It’s more fun than you think.

I met someone that is very similar to me that I would not have become friends with otherwise. My boyfriend and I now have couple friends because I made the first move.

I’m not saying that you won’t have people that aren’t right for you: I definitely had to deal with some girls’ bullshit. But for the most part I met genuine people that I can now call my friends.

I know this is only one suggestion, but it’s really the only thing that worked for me.

Like you haven’t heard this before

I hope we all get to experience the feeling of gaining a good friend after a while of being a tad lonely and bored.

In honor of Taylor Swift’s new album, Lover, coming out

Please feel free to contact me and ask me any questions that you have about my experiences or just advice! It’s always nice to converse with someone who is going through the same thing as you.

As always, good luck 🙂

4 Ways to Improve Your Interview Game

Hello again! It’s now August and I really can’t believe how fast this year has gone by!

I remember being a kid, thinking that it was taking soooo long to turn 16 years old– I would finally get my license and a car and get to drive myself around!

Ever since then, it seems I’ve been speeding my way through life (literally and figuratively). Now I’m 21 and living an adult life.

Part of the adult life is having a job… money makes the world go round, as you know. But before you have a job, you have to get the job.

That means going through an interview.


INTERVIEW– A word despised by a lot of people. Scheduling that meeting comes with a lot of emotions, good and bad.

Excitement!

You have a chance of getting the job.

Nervousness.

You have to sit in front of head of companies and impress them.

Doubt.

Will you be good enough for the job? Will they like you? What if you say something stupid?

Hope.

How cool is the possibility of acing the interview and getting the job?!


I recently got a WONDERFUL job opportunity in which I had to go through a video and in person interview.

All I could think about is, I want this job more than anything!! I have to kill these meetings.

One great thing about being me is I handle nerves very well. While you may not have this trait, you can still rise above and impress the interviewers.

As someone who does well in interviews (I think), I have just a few tips to help you guys out!! It’s really simple when you slow your mind down and channel your inner professional.


1. Be prepared

One thing I always do before going through an interview is do a little research on the company and/or job position.

If you really want to impress, if you know the person who is going to be interviewing you, do some digging on them.

You never know what you might find! Accomplishments to schmooze, or maybe some entertaining dirt (always a plus).

Another facet of preparation is wardrobe.

Remember to always dress for the job you want and not the one you have. Meaning, dress business and appropriate.

If you question it, don’t wear it.

2. Be confident

Yes, I’m sure every piece of text written on interviews says this, but it’s true! It’s a natural instinct to be attracted to confidence.

An easy way to help achieve confidence even if you feel less than, is to literally just pretend.

Pretend? Like we used to do as kids? EXACTLY!

As a very wise person (and everyone else) has said, fake it till you make it.

3. Be honest

This is the most important, in my opinion.

I often think that interviewees get so consumed with the pressure to be professional and perfect that they forget the person in front of them is human too.

In my most recent interview, the job required 1-2 years experience in the field, which I don’t have. I just graduated college in December.

I acknowledged that fact that by telling a true sentiment from my life: after graduating, it was not easy to find a job in my field. Everyone wants experience! How can I gain experience when I’m not given an adequate chance?

This opened a door with the interviewer to tell me she has kids my age struggling with the same thing. So hopefully I’ll get some good news soon!

This being said, everything in moderation. Just remember you still are trying to win them over.

4. Be yourself

At last, the grand finale!!

This one is pretty self-explanatory, but still necessary.

The importance of showing your personality during an interview is to try and gain a human connection.

If you’re hiding who you are, your future boss won’t see how great you are!


I hope you find my tips for being interviewed helpful and easy to apply.

For those getting ready to go through the hiring process, GOOD LUCK!!!!